24 Tips and Tricks on Getting A Mentor

Here are some tips and tricks on getting a mentor

When you are starting out you obviously know very little.

Don’t be offended.

It’s not you, just your lack of experience.

You will probably will make a lot of mistakes and miss out on a lot of opportunities…

But you can limit how often this happens by finding a mentor.

How do people find mentors anyway?

Is it as simple as just asking?

Well, pretty much.

You choose someone you think would be a good mentor and then ask, “Would you consider a mentoring relationship with me?”

But wait!

Before you do that…

Before you find a mentor

Optimize your chances and check out these tips:

  1. Know yourself.

Consciously think about where you are in your career and where you would like to be.

Honestly assess what type of personality you have and which personality types complement your style.

Consider your strengths and weaknesses and define how a mentor might guide you through your growth.

If you don’t know yourself…

How can another person support you and help you grow?

  1. Be clear on why you want a mentor.

Are you looking for someone to offer specific advice?

Do you want a conduit to your industry’s movers and shakers?

Or do you just need a sounding board?

  1. Ask for referrals.

As with any search process, tap into your friends, colleagues and networks to expand your reach.

When requesting referrals…

Be clear about what you are looking for and why.

It will save you time, your friend’s energy, and the contact’s efforts.

  1. Define your personality and communication style.

What kind of mentor would best complement you?

You may choose someone who’s your opposite of you

Such as an extrovert to your introvert

or someone in whom you see yourself and vice versa.

  1. When asking someone to be your mentor.

Explain why you are asking and what you would expect out of the relationship.

Name your reasons for approaching this particular person.

Don’t be afraid to be flattering like “I’m asking you because you are the most successful person I know”.

  1. A mentor is a powerful role model.

Look for someone who has the kind of life and work you would like to have.

Also, choose a mentor you truly respect.

Don’t just go for the biggest name you can find.

  1. Before asking someone to be your mentor.

Consider first simply asking for input on a single specific topic.

How did that go?

Was it good advice?

Was it delivered in a way that made sense to you,

And did it fill you with confidence and energy?

  1. Choosing a Mentor.

Choose a mentor whose goals are similar to your own.

  1. Mentor has time to mentor

Make sure your mentor has an adequate amount of time to give to this relationship.

Can he meet with you on a regular basis?

Are they receptive to answering questions or helping with issues as they arise?

  1. Contacting your mentor

Take the initial step in establishing contact with a potential mentor since you are the one who will benefit the most from the relationship.

  1. Participating with your mentor

You must find the time to participate in the relationship with your mentor.

Such as, if your mentor wants to meet with you before or after work…

Don’t make excuses about not having enough time.

Make time.

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  1. Helping your mentor out

Look for ways you can reciprocate the help your mentor offers.

At the very least, you can occasionally spring for lunch or send a fruit basket.

You don’t want to be all take-take-take.

  1. Show gratitude.

Never let your mentor feel taken for granted!

Also, supply feedback.

If your mentor suggested something that really worked out for you, report back.

People love hearing about their part in a success story.

  1. When looking for a mentor.

Think beyond former bosses and professors.

Look to older family members or friends, neighbors, spiritual leaders, community leaders, the networks of your friends and colleagues, or officials of professional or trade associations you belong to.

Avoid asking your direct supervisor at work.

You want to be free to discuss workplace issues as well as your plans for future advancement.

  1. Forms of mentoring.

Keep in mind that mentoring can take on many forms.

It can be a monthly lunch, a quarterly phone call, a weekly handball game, or merely a steady E-mail correspondence.

Your mentor does not even have to live in your city or region.

  1. Mentors that mold you.

Many mentors derive pleasure from “molding” someone in their own images.

This is great for them and great for you if you want to be molded.

But beware of mentors who are too bossy, controlling, or judgmental.

This is your path, not theirs.

  1. Being dependent

Don’t become too dependent on your mentor.

The idea is that one day you will eventually be able to fly on your own.

In fact, you may not take every bit of advice your mentor offers.

Continue to think for yourself.

  1. Be honest with them.

Let your mentor know if you don’t understand something or have a differing opinion.

  1. Actively participate.


Ask if you can observe your mentor’s practice if they are local.

  1. Get to know each other.

Remember that people come from diverse backgrounds and experiences.

Get to know each other on an individual basis.

  1. Be reliable and consistent.

The more consistent you are, the more you will be trusted.

  1. Stay positive!

Remember that your mentor is offering feedback and not criticizing.

  1. More than one mentor.

You are allowed to have more than one mentor.

In fact, you can have a whole committee if you want and call it your Board of Directors.

Choose different mentors for different facets of your professional and even personal life.

  1. Don’t get offended.

Finally, if you ask someone to be your mentor and that person refuses, don’t be hurt or offended.

This is not personal!

Potential good mentors are very busy people.

Thank them for the consideration and ask for a referral.

path of successful people

If you study the path of successful people

You will see that most of them had considerable help along the way.

A mentor can be a good to any career.

So why deprive yourself?

Go out and get a mentor of your own.

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My next post will be on mentoring quotes.

Here is a great article to read on Wikihow: How to Find a Mentor

Read my latest blog on: Where Can You Find a Mentor

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